Ger: Life in the Tribe

January 17, 2006

Disclosure

So when is it a good time to well you know disclose information about yourself. I mean I think that it all has something to do with timing, maybe not even that. I think that A LOT of disclosure for me really depends on who is on the recieving end. I tend to only feel comfortable with people that I have some relation too. DO I really know what that specific spark is when it's someone that tell something too? NO, but it's more of a gut feeling. Who are the recivers of this information of the Malka? Ones that have made it clear that they would not want to harm me. Now, have I made mistakes in the past about this..HELL YEAH! Once I learned that I had made a mistake, which we all do..I remedied the problem, never to repeat it again. hmm, just a few thoughts to think on.

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January 16, 2006

Repost of...

Sunday, August 28, 2005

Bill of Rights
Current mood: blah


The Fuck Buddy Bill of RIghts
I was recently apprehended (more like cornered)by a few friends of mine who read my blog every week. They are going through a rough situation, dealing with their "sex" partners. I guess I am supposed to be the expert on this shite (yeah right, I ain'Jessie and Lisa(the names have been changed to protect the guilty) asked me to draft a Fuck Buddy Bill of Rights to inform you women and some of you men out there the unspoken rules of Fuck Buddydom. Read'em and take notes. ~T "The Fuck Buddy Bill of Rights" 1. Make sure you know yourself and your weaknesses before embarking on this journey. If you are not strong enough to receive rejection or not strong enough to view sex without romance than do not pass go, do not collect $200. 2. Find someone that you are mildly attracted to. Make sure he is not too attractive because this could lead down the road of catching feelings later. 3. Let him know from the beginning that this is just sex and nothing else. 4. Never go on a date and never spend more than five minutes in conversation with him, in person or on the phone. 5. Never, never get to know him. The less you know the better. And always, always use a condom. 6. Have sex at his place only so that you'd be the one to leave afterwards, therefore setting the tone of the relationship. 7. As soon as one of you begin to develop feelings or start feeling jealous or possessive, break it off immediately. 8. Never stay in a prolonged fuck buddy relationship. 1-2 months is as long as most mortals can go before they start fancying themselves in love. Remember you know yourself better than anyone and you know your limits. 9. Never try to turn a fuck buddy into a friendship or relationship, it rarely works and will eventually cause you heartache. 10. Last but not least, have fun and make sure you cum every time or else dump his sorry ass and find yourself another fuck buddy.. Cheers!! ~Tovah
This is not mine..it is a repost from You've Never Seen A Black Jew Before

Currently listening:
Blaze Of Glory: Songs Written And Performed By Jon Bon Jovi, Inspired By The Film Young Guns II

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Ger: Life in the Tribe

Ahh the new year.
This is my second posting of the month. Due to some technical difficulties of well..the blogger, the first one did not post.
I will make the reader's digest version. Have had an interesting time on the new year's chanukah festivities. I went to spend some time at my friend's house (Katie and Sam). I had had so much to drink that by the time the ball had fallen, I was sleeping in the lazy boy, me being a drnuk lazy girl. Which was quite fun for a change. Not that I like the drink a lot. I think that my tolerance of the drink has diminished in my age. The only time where I can actually drink quite a bit with out falling out is at the reqired time of festivals. Pesach, Purim, shabbat. The following day was spent with Katie and Sam, doing some of the normal daily things. It was nice to spend time with them. They are good friends, and it's always fun to spend the holidays with them. I had lots of latkes!
I have started a new job, it has been about a month.
I am looking forward to purchasing a new car at the end of the week. Which is something that I never could have said having all three of the other jobs. I will be able to pay for school. Also for other fun things. Good times are ahead.
I look forward to enrolling in correspondence classes for this semester!
I spent some time on Sat. night with a friend of mine. His name is Jim, and we met at a gay bar. We were introduced by a mutual friend of both of ours as "LindaKathryn, this is Jim he's straight like you." It was actually quite funny. I think that we met sometime in November. We went out to eat some time Thai food, followed by a quick stint in Wally world to pick up some soy milk. It was fun, did have a good time.

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January 09, 2006

Times they are a changing

So, I have been at this job for about a month now. So far so good. I am actually quite surprised how well I have been doing. With some help from our houston office, I have managed to pull a $700+ dollar check. Now that is only for one week. I must say that when I decided to leave my jobs I was a bit worried. But I am so happy that I finally did. I am worth so much more than I was working. I had to work so hard, and for nothing. In one month of being with the company I will be able to purchase a vehicle, pay for school, and get out of my living situation. Which should be a load off of my mind.
I am freakin determined to loose not only my second ass, but the more of the extra. What is the extra you ask? Well you know all the extra blubber that is really not needed. Now am I thinking that I will be some teeny tiny size 4? Hell no! My boobs actually will not allow it, I would look really ill too. I want to actually be at a weight, so that when I go and try on clothes it's not something that I dread, but something that I can stomach. I am not as my friend Miss Fashionista, but I would like to be trendy, not too trendy. I like my skin, and with a bit of help from her I'm sure that I can stay abreast of all of that stuff.
I have had recent contact with an old ex of mine. Did the relationship end bad. Lo, it actually ended on a note that was open. Not bad/good, but in the middle, so that if we were ever to be in the right place & right time we could well re-explore. It s hould be interesting. Will keep the readers posted!
I think at this point this is actually all that I have to say. Will try to actually write here 2-3 times a week.
Lilah tov
Malka

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December 25, 2005

Update etc...

So, on the accident of the last post. The girl ended up trying to file a complaint that she was hurt. When she found out that she was at fault as well, she quickly withdrew her claim. Hmm?
There have been a massive amount of new things going on in my life. I'd like to share those with you, all of you that actually read this thing.
A friend of mine that I had known for 7 years had recently hurt me very very much. She got married rencently, and no I wasn't invitied to the wedding. The thing that truly struck me funny, was that she had invited someone who she had repeatedly said bad things about. He was supposed to be the best man in the wedding at that. She had also had a conversion to Islam. Now, I truly didn't think that her conversion was sincere. It was for the sole purpose of leading this guy to marry her(and he did, 2 years later!, after his father had passed away.-oh and did I mention that he had forbade his son to marry her because she was too fat!) I had kept silent about the conversion thing, but not about the weight issue. He was not to bring her into the family purely because of her size. I was like that's not cool, and if you want to be in a relationship with someone that wants to have his family to tell him what to do, then she should move on. On top of all of that, when she went to meet his family they went in stating that she was a friend of someone else, not his girlfriend. So basically the face-face relationship with the family started out as a lie.
I had had a conversation with with one of my best friend's about her and she had stated which I finally came to understand something very true. In a way it wasn't me and in the other way I was the catalyst that she would meassure things by and realize that she was wrong. My friend also went along to state that I spoke the truth and she knew it, but that we as human surround ourselves with people that remind us of our family. She likes to keep people that she talks about behind their back, as well as having people that will lie to you as welll around. IN a way she said that I should feel sorry for her. She then went on to say that if I was her, I wouldn't want you at my wedding either. Because I speak the truth. SOmetimes it is just as simple as that. I have learned over time that sometimes I don't need to say anything, unless it is someone that I truly care about. I chose to in this woman's case, and she couldn't handle the truth.
Happy Chanukkah

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December 08, 2005

Assimilation II

So, I tried to post this earlier, and to no avail it didn't work. I was trying to reference a nip/tuck from about 2 weeks ago. It was introducing a new character named Ariel. One of Matt's girlfriends[the son of Julia/Shawn/Christian(biological)] who calls herself a purist. Now, the definition of that according to her is that she hates the fact that American plastic surgeons are whitening minorities. She then went on to state that every time that they(McNamera/Troy) shaved off a Jewish bump or sucked fat out of a Black ass, they were contributing to making minorities white.
But then think about it. Have we become a people that is so concerned with how we look that we will shave off our genetic attributes to become like borg? What happens when the children are born? They will have those same pesky attributes that we had before. If any of you have ever seen the Dave Chappel show when he is the blind Black man that's a White supremacist. He is married to a white woman, once he tells her that he is Black and wants to stay married to him. He divorces her because he states that she is a "nigger lover". What does this really say about our society? That we are so self loathing/hating that we would deny what we are in order to be accepted. Have well been brain washed to believe that we should all look alike? I mean think about it. I know that Black women have been straightening their hair for at least 80 years in order to assimilate. But think about were we treated any differently because of our "straight" hair. We were still spat on when trying to eat at lunch counters, cat-called when trying to go to school. People want to believe that it was so long ago, but it really wasn't. It was for me, my parents generation. Am I reeping the benefits of their struggle? YES I AM! But am I willing to compromise what I am because of it? NO! I am an American/Jewish/Black/Woman. Do I straighten my hair, nope, I gave up that nasty habit almost a year ago. It's a tough one to break too.
I know of a personal friend of my family that has always made us call her Mary, instead of her given name Maria. It's started to get strange that we all want to slowly gravitate towards being white. As Chris Rock said from his special never scared"if it's white, then it's all right." have we truly come to that? I hope not. Let me know!

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December 02, 2005

Assimilation


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November 22, 2005

Nappy!

So,
yes I am one of those women that has decided to stop adding creamy crack to her hair. For those of you that don't know what the reference to creamy crack is it's relaxer{stuff that people with curly hair use to straighten it(ahhh! just the shear thought of the crap makes me happy that I don't have to deal with it anymore)} I've actually been told by the women in my family(grandma) and I quote: "didn't have time to make it to the shop?" "Yes, I didn't and this is how they do my hair now". Let me tell you my mom actually flew in to state don't criticize that girl because of her hair, she has 3 jobs and is the only one that would help me if I got sick. That is how they(women of my generation) are wearing their hair now.I do have 2 other sibs(both brothers and older). Just to think, my mother the one that tells me that I want to be white so bad-yet I have completely I guess gone retrograde to her and have quit trying to assimilate. The only chemical that I now have in my hair is color. I have learned to like my nice curly nappy roots. It's cool to see all the texture that I've had all along. I don't think that in my entire life I've actually seen my true hair on my head. Since I was young I could always remember contorting/frying/dying/burning(I do mean chemical burns!ouchie!).
The crazy thing is that I've actually been getting hit on more by people that aren't black A LOT. It's like beating them off with a stick. I've never been hit on by so many people. I've gotten the-can I touch your hair many a days. I think that it's really cool that others are so willing to embrace the differences that one can clearly see in me. But my own people can't- :( It does make me a bit sad. When will they come to their senses?
So it's nappy/curly/scary spice signing out.
lilah tov

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